Social events

Go to non-play educational or recreational events and make friends

The more people you know in a given sex-positive community the safer you’re probably going to feel there.

They are social communities where people know each other, share a common interest, and have a mutual history, and while certainly a lot of anonymous sex does happen at these places, it is better to make connections and get to know the people around us.

This social aspect cannot be underestimated. These are not dump-and-go kinds of places. Generally, any given party is 80% hanging out and making new friends and 20% sex.

Getting to know your community and making yourself a regular is one of the most enjoyable aspects of swinging. It is also something that’s going to keep you safer. When people know you, they watch out for you.

Going to a sex-positive community’s non-play educational and recreational events is a good way to make connections and advance into the scene.